Let's talk about cheaters...
Just as much as it's my job to trust my mate...its my significant other's job not to be in situations that cause distrust.. ~JALiL (of Whodini)
Everyone has been cheated on or has cheated in their lifetime. And if you say that your significant other hasn't ever cheated on you, then you might want to reconsider that belief. The difference in cheating in men and women is that men cheat just to see if they can get away with it and women cheat because their man has cheated on them first. This is called Revenge Cheating, just so you know. So, are you a cheater or have you been cheated on? I think most who are reading this are a combination of both. As i said previously, there are gender roles in cheating. From my experience, i dated a guy who told me that i was the woman of his dreams...blah blah blah. I've heard it all before so i wasn't very moved when he said those words to me. I was, however, open to see if he really meant what he had been saying to me. It only took 2 months to realize that he was full of shit too. Fifty years old and still lying and cheating. And since I'd already been told every lie under the sun in previous relationships, i already knew that he was cheating. But this time i played it differently. I sat on that information and let him think that i didn't know he was cheating lol I was getting wined and dined and didn't have to put out, so why would i mess that up? IJS This went on for a couple months. And when it all came to a head, he "tried" to break up with me after i called him out for lying so many times. I just looked at the messages and laughed and thought to myself, Dude...you was already kicked to the curb. I just didn't tell you. ....now back to my regularly scheduled doo-rag ;-)
And how come when a woman cheats on a man, he has a conniption?? He acts like she's the worst person in the world because he got a dose of his own medicine. I'm proud to say that i didn't cheat back in this situation. Now if it were 20 years ago, i woulda hurt his feeling real bad with a revenge cheat. But I've grown a lot and revenge just isn't a dish i serve anymore. The way i see things, God will handle him way more than i could ever handle him. But being cheated does make you wonder what's on your significant other's mind? Especially when you see who they cheated on you with LOL. I remember once i saw the person who one of my exes cheated with. No words. All i could think was, You're short, fat, got little hands and feet, and your breath stinks....but you want to cheat on me?? lol ...ok I'm done.
So as i said previously, women usually cheat strictly for emotional reasons. There aren't too many women who cheat just to cheat unless she's just gangsta like that? There's an emotional need not being met and for some reason, she looks for it outside the relationship. Or she's been cheated on more than once and is feed up with her significant other's disrespect of their relationship. In any case, cheating is old and we're too old for that mess. Nothing is proved and nothing is solved through cheating. The only thing it does is make the cheater look as stupid as they really are to everyone around them. So why jeopardize a relationship and make yourself look like a fool in the process? It's just not worth it.
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